Why Divorce Lawyers Don’t Tend To Get Divorced

Why Divorce Lawyers Don’t Tend To Get Divorced

“Till death do us part.” This famous promise that almost every couple vows to uphold when entering into the institution of marriage unfortunately tends to be broken quite often. It is estimated that nearly 50% of modern marriages end in divorce (42% in the UK to be precise) and this has in turn created an ever-growing need for professionals who can assist people with navigating such a major life transition. Enter the divorce lawyer, who’s ‘bread and butter’ is quite literally to facilitate the termination of relationships so that once smitten lovers can move on with their newly separate lives.

One would think, given the nature of their work, that this kind of lawyer would be no stranger to divorce within their own life. After all, it has often been said that ‘experience is the best teacher’. However, the reality is quite the opposite. Divorce lawyers don’t tend to get divorced very often. In fact, they appear to steer away from the undertaking altogether at a greater rate than the average person does – but why is this so?

Although a long marriage doesn’t necessarily equate to a successful one, divorce lawyers tend to stay married for a variety of reasons. The first, and probably most obvious of these, is the simple fact that they regularly have to witness how difficult the process of getting a divorce actually is. Most people don’t realise how heavily a divorce can impact their lives, and this is largely because they have not been adequately prepared for the contract of marriage in the first place. When you buy a house, you are generally given copious amounts of paperwork to read through and digest before signing your name on the dotted line and making the final commitment. This is because you will need to have a good understanding of the practical, administrative, and financial capabilities required to own and manage a property, especially in today’s ever-changing economy. The same unfortunately cannot be said of getting married, as there really is no standardised pamphlet or handbook to guide young couples – a surprising truth considering the fact that marriage is quite possibly the most significant legal commitment one can make.

Divorce lawyers understand that the litigation involved in divorce is not only costly and time consuming, but it can also get incredibly ‘messy’ as one’s personal life is laid bare to scrutiny on a near-granular level. Details such as your earning and spending habits, who’s will you may be a beneficiary of, and how you intend to manage your pension or any property you own can all become ‘fair game’ in the aftermath of launching divorce proceedings. It is not unheard of for some couples to still be embroiled in legal disputes over child maintenance costs and property management nigh on a decade after their separation for example. Additionally, there is no evading the severe emotional and psychological consequences that a marriage breakdown can have on any children who are involved. Divorce lawyers will therefore understand that they are not the only party affected by making the potentially nuclear decision to separate from their partners, making them even more reticent to get divorced.

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Perhaps all this awareness of the pitfalls of divorce also enables these professionals to choose more wisely when deciding on whom they should marry. They have been privy to not only the practical and financial aspects of their client’s lives, but also the personal and emotional elements, and have consequently witnessed a myriad of ways in which relationships can collapse. The strain of raising children, running a home, or not being properly understood or valued due to miscommunication can all lead to a marriage breakdown. As a result, ensuring that they are compatible with their future spouse by having aligned wants and needs for their relationship, realistic expectations of each other, and clearly designated roles and responsibilities (did someone say prenup?) will naturally be their first point of call.

Nonetheless, some divorce lawyers do end up getting divorced and this is simply because life circumstances do change, and adaptation is not always possible. At Grayfords, we understand the need to have to sometimes close the chapter of a marriage when things don’t work out and we pride ourselves in being able to support our clients on both a legal and personal level as we guide them through this process. If you are considering getting divorced and need expert legal advice and representation to fight for your best interest, don’t hesitate to call us today and book a free consultation to find out more about how we can help.

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Regular Catch-up Strategies


At Grayfords, we understand the importance of developing effective strategies to achieve the desired outcomes for our clients in family law and private client law matters. That's why we prioritise regular catch-up strategies to ensure that your case is handled efficiently and aligned with your goals. 

As experienced family and private client lawyers, and strategy experts, we recognise that every case is unique and requires a tailored approach. Through regular catch-up sessions, we engage in open and collaborative discussions with our clients to gain a thorough understanding of their objectives, concerns, and preferences. These ‘catch-ups’ allow us to assess the progress of your case, identify any evolving needs or challenges, and adjust our strategies accordingly. We are also then able to put in place any personal support our clients may need should they wish to avail themselves of our coaching and therapy & mental health services at any point during their legal matter.

By maintaining regular communication, we can provide you with updates on the status of your case, share important information, and address any questions or concerns you may have. This proactive approach ensures that you are actively involved in the decision-making process and empowers you to make informed choices throughout the legal proceedings. 

Our aim is to ensure that your case is being handled in the most efficient and effective way possible. Through our regular catch-up strategies, we can evaluate the success of our current strategies, make necessary adjustments, and optimise our approach to maximise the chances of achieving a favourable outcome for you. 

At Grayfords, we value your input and understand that your goals are essential to the success of your case. Our commitment to regular catch-up strategies reflects our dedication to providing personalised and client-centered legal services. By working together, we can create a strong partnership and develop strategies that align with your vision and aspirations. 

Strategic Partnerships​


At Grayfords, we believe in the power of strategic partnerships to enhance the quality and efficiency of our legal services. We understand that legal matters often require expertise in various specialised areas, and that's why we have established strong relationships with trusted and renowned specialists in both family law, private client law, and therapy and mental health support.

Our strategic partnerships enable us to provide a streamlined and comprehensive legal service to our clients. When your case requires consultation or assistance in specific areas of the law, we have the resources and connections to quickly and efficiently engage the right experts. 

Whether it's a complex family law issue or a multifaceted private client law matter, our network of trusted specialists allows us to draw upon their knowledge and experience to provide the best possible advice and representation for our clients. These partnerships ensure that we can offer comprehensive solutions that address all aspects of your case, providing you with a holistic approach to your legal (and personal) needs. 

By collaborating with specialists in various legal fields, we can navigate intricate legal challenges more effectively, saving you time, effort, and potential complications. Our commitment to strategic partnerships means that we stay informed about the latest developments in family law and private client law, ensuring that our advice and strategies are up-to-date and relevant. 

At Grayfords, we value the importance of offering a well-rounded legal service to our clients. Our strategic partnerships enable us to tap into a wealth of expertise and resources, ultimately enhancing the quality and effectiveness of our services. You can trust that we have the necessary connections to consult with specialists whenever needed, ensuring that every aspect of your case is addressed with proficiency and efficiency while also supporting you on a personal level as needed.

Time for you


At Grayfords, we understand the value of time, and we prioritise our clients by ensuring that they receive the attention and support they need throughout their legal journey. Unlike other family law and firms, we never claim to be too busy for our clients. We believe that effective communication is essential, and our team is always accessible and responsive to your needs.

Whether you have a question, or concern, or need an update on your case, our dedicated team of family law and private client law experts will be readily available to assist you. We go the extra mile to ensure that you can reach us conveniently and promptly. You can count on us to answer your calls or reply to your messages on platforms like WhatsApp, enabling efficient and effective communication.

Our commitment to internal collaboration and dynamism ensures that there is always someone available to address your family law or private client law case. We understand that legal matters can be time-sensitive, and we strive to provide timely and accurate advice. You can rely on our team's collective knowledge and expertise to guide you through the complexities of family law and private client law.

At Grayfords, we recognise that your time is valuable, and we respect that by being responsive, accessible, and dedicated to your case. We prioritise open and transparent communication, keeping you informed and involved every step of the way. You can trust that we will dedicate the necessary time and attention to your legal matters, ensuring that you feel supported and well taken care of.

Specialised Service


At Grayfords, we offer a specialised range of services across both family law and private client law, tailored to meet the unique needs of our clients. With a focus on honesty, empathy, and pragmatism, we provide reliable legal advice that is designed to help our clients achieve success in their legal matters. 

In the realm of family law, we understand the emotional challenges that can arise during sensitive family disputes. Our team of experienced family law solicitors provides compassionate support and guidance throughout the process. Whether you are going through a divorce, child custody battle, or dealing with complex property division, we have the expertise to navigate these intricate matters while prioritising your best interests. 

In the field of private client law, we recognise the complexities and demands that business owners and HNWIs face in today's dynamic marketplace. Our private client law services encompass a wide range of areas including wealth planning, asset management, trusts, wills, probate, and lasting powers of attorney. We aim to be your trusted legal partner, offering strategic advice and solutions that align with your commercial objectives as you navigate your family matter. 

At Grayfords, we believe in fostering long-term exceptional working relationships with our clients. Our dedicated team goes above and beyond to understand your unique circumstances and provide tailored legal solutions that anticipate your individual needs. We pride ourselves on delivering an outstanding personal service level, ensuring that you feel supported and informed throughout your legal journey.  

Our ultimate goal is to alleviate the pressure and stress often associated with legal matters. We are committed to guiding you through the complexities of family law and private client law, allowing you to focus on what matters most to you. Trust Grayfords to provide you with the specialised legal services you deserve, backed by our expertise, integrity, and dedication to your success.